Saturday, August 9, 2008
John Edwards' Affair -- Monogamy Boredom Strikes Again?
That John Edwards had an affair? or that he lied about it throughout his presidential campaign?
He has effectively ended his political career regardless.
Still, let's face it. This is another example of how difficult monogamy is to deal with. Temptation is always there whether we want to admit it or not.
One of the reasons I am single is that I hate monogamy so much.
For me, monogamy is an outmoded ritual ... that chokes off the spontaneity and passion that is so important for a relationship to survive over the long run.
Rather be single than a liar.
My feelings about monogamy and its failings will be explored more in my second novel that will come out in the next year or two.
In the meantime ... here's a poem I wrote about my misgivings about monogamy.
MONOGAMY IS A NOOSE
Monogamy is a noose
choking off the joys of love
and the discovery of wild passion
leaves us feeling so guilty for
We are so tortured
for desiring another
when faced with
Anyone who suggests a
way out of this predicament –
an open relationship
or more tolerance
is met with disdain
and even called a freak of nature.
But who is the real freak?
The one who ignores the limitations
of our dead rituals and lives in unhappiness
Or the one who tries to live honestly
and explores variety and life's
pleasures without lies
and with an open heart?